Be a Better Nurse – Take a Vacation

Be a better nurse… Take a vacation!

While you’re on your vacation, put all things nursing and job out of your head and don’t think about it for a week, or maybe 2! I am pretty sure I just heard every one of you say, “Vacation, I wish.” under your breath. I hope after reading this you will find the time and priority.

Any nurse leader has heard of the term PTO. It’s typically a dreaded term used by employee’s coming to you in order to request time not to show up to work. When you use it, it’s more representative of Part Time Office then Paid Time Off. Why do we find it so difficult to take time off work?

Believe it or not, there have been many studies on the topic. Most studies conclude that fear of losing position, status, or place in line for the next promotion often keeps us from utilizing our time off to its full potential.

However, those same study’s also indicate that taking time off is much more important than one might realize. Interestingly, it is not only necessary for the employee but for the company as well.

“Underutilized time off is a monstrous missed opportunity, not only for American workers and their families but also for employers and the broader economy,” Roger Dow, president and chief executive of the U.S. Travel Association, said in a statement- Forbes

What happens when you take a vacation? You give your brain some downtime and replenish your soul.

“To summarize, Americans and their brains are preoccupied with work much of the time. Throughout history people have intuited that such puritanical devotion to perpetual busyness does not in fact translate to greater productivity and is not particularly healthy. What if the brain requires substantial downtime to remain industrious and generate its most innovative ideas? “Idleness is not just a vacation, an indulgence or a vice; it is as indispensable to the brain as vitamin D is to the body, and deprived of it we suffer a mental affliction as disfiguring as rickets,” essayist Tim Kreider wrote in The New York Times. “The space and quiet that idleness provides is a necessary condition for standing back from life and seeing it whole, for making unexpected connections and waiting for the wild summer lightning strikes of inspiration—it is, paradoxically, necessary to getting any work done.” – Scientific American

Having down time, however, is not just important for you. It’s also important for businesses. Vacation days give employee’s time to step back and refresh. This leads to more productivity and better focus. More productivity and better focus in the nursing world translates to better patient outcomes and safer patient care.

Not everywhere is equal when it comes to vacation days.

In a dataset of 2,310 respondents, we looked at data from the 20 countries with the most paid vacation days (247 respondents) and compared them to respondents in the United States (1,151). The 20 countries with the most vacation ranged from Australia, with 28 days allotted, to Sweden and Brazil, with 41 days. By contrast, the United States has no law requiring paid time off, and the average full-time worker with a year of service gets 10 paid vacation days (and only 25% of Americans take their full allotment, according to another survey). – HBR

Looking at the USA my own state made it on the top 10 list of best states.

Phoenix, workers, are much less likely to feel that skipping vacation makes them appear more dedicated than the average employee (14% to 26%) and they do not worry as much about losing consideration for a raise or promotion (11% to 21%). – Project Time Off

With Main in first place of most vacation days taken.

Maine holds the top spot when it comes to vacation usage, with just 38 percent of its workers leaving time on the table. Overall, Mainers are less affected than the average worker by the barriers to taking time off, particularly the fear that they would lose consideration for a raise or promotion (11% to 21%) and also report better vacation cultures at their companies.- Project Time Off

And the worst state to live in if you want to take a vacation day!

Washington, D.C. tops this year’s list[of worst states], despite being less challenged by many of the barriers to taking time off. – Project Time Off

How to vacation the right way.

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If you are anything like me, this is tough. If you’re anything like my wife, this is all but impossible. Today is actually the last day of our week-long vacation, and I would say one of the most successful vacations we have had in some time.

You see most of our vacations are more a change of location that work gets done than an absence of work altogether. We have been known to sit in the hotel of our vacation destination with laptops open and working for hours. However, prioritizing our time and careful planning made this a success.

3 ways to vacation right


Before vacation this time we both identified someone who could handle the day to day operations of our jobs while we were gone.


Before leaving we both set our out of office replies. Before that, we had communicated with our staff weeks before so everyone knew what to do and who to call if anything was needed.

Trust you team

Sometimes taking a vacation is like sending your kid to their first day of school. It’s more about your control than about your need to be there. Trust your team to handle things while you’re gone. You may just be surprised how people do when forced to step up to the plate.

Thanks for stopping by. I hope you enjoyed the article and may even have been inspired to take some time off. If you liked this article, please like us on Facebook and leave a comment below.

Is Being a Nurse Dangerous?

Is being a nurse dangerous? 2017 has been a tragic year for nurse’s country wide. Horrendous acts have catapulted a long standing issue into the limelight.

Nurse injured, suspect in custody after shooting inside Ocala emergency room

 2 nurses taken hostage during Geneva hospital standoff; suspect fatally shot

Officials: Gunman killed police chief before shooting 2 others at nursing home, self

Nurse Was Raped at Gunpoint During Hostage Standoff at Suburban Hospital: Suit

According to a 2015 study published in the Journal of Emergency Nursing, 76 percent of nurses at a private hospital system in Virginia said they had experienced physical or verbal abuse from patients in the previous year.

This epidemic is on the rise, often resulting in tragedy. To add insult to injury the attitude of the healthcare system today and to be honest many professional nurses is that a certain level of abuse and mistreatment of our nurses is tolerable and expected when entering the nursing profession. While no one questions how dangerous the police profession is, the assault on a police officer or his K9 partner could result in a felony charge. The everyday assault nurses experience is often considered “part of the job.”

What confuses this situation, however, is that in many cases these outburst towards nursing staff is a result of underlying conditions such as Dementia or confusion. I have been bitten, scratched, had things thrown at me as a nurse, in my case these were the result of very confused patients with memory impairment and in the first few years of my career often because of my own inexperience in approach and redirection. There is a distinct learning curve here that takes time and experience to overcome. My question then becomes what are we doing on a global scale to ensure the safety of our nurses while they are overcoming this learning curve?

Part of the problem is cultural, Ross says: “It’s long been looked at, when you get spat on or verbally abused, pinched, hit over that head with something … not just by the nurses and health care workers themselves, but by people in positions of authority, that this was just part of the job, and it’s something you know you accept when you decide to go, for example, into nursing.”

The issue of assault by patients is complicated by the recognition that, in most instances, it’s not deliberate, Ross says: “Most of these people are not trying to harm you.” Patients whose thinking is clouded by drugs or dementia may believe they’re protecting themselves, Ross says, when staff members attempt to start an IV line or prevent patients from putting themselves at risk by yanking out a urinary catheter.

It’s a unique issue with unique problems, but problems that need to be solved nonetheless.

In preparing this article, I began my research looking for what systems are in place today on a global scale to protect nurses. I found nothing. If procedures are in place, it is due to specific hospital protocols with minimal requirements from a state or federal level. In fact according to only CA, CT, IL, MD, MN, NJ, OR has anything in place to that requires employers to run workplace violence programs. NY has such policies but only for public employers.

What also struck me when doing research is much of the research is years old. In fact, many sites are citing research from 2010 to 2013 with very little from 2014 through 2016. Now, this may be due to incidents like what has happened recently sparking research to be conducted more thoroughly through these time frames but this hasn’t stopped in fact in much of research with the rise in mental health, and substance abuse there has been ever increasing the problem.

…there has been a 110 percent spike in the rate of violent incidents reported against health-care workers. In one informal survey, as many as one-in-four nurses suggested that they had been attacked at work between 2013 and 2014 alone.* Patients often kick, scratch, and grab them; in rare cases even kill them. In fact, there are nearly as many violent injuries in the health-care industry as there are in all other industries combined. Health-care workers make up 9 percent of the workforce.

As a nurse leader, I think we have a responsibility to not only speak out and speak up for better working condition including nurse staffing ratios but be a voice in coming up with solutions. We know what it takes to do our jobs and do them well, just yelling and lobbying isn’t enough we also need to be a voice in the creation of laws and the education of our healthcare system.

The first step is to raise awareness about how dangerous the nursing profession has become. I challenge nurse bloggers and nurse leaders to raise awareness and bring the spotlight on this rising concern.

Next week we will discuss strategy and techniques for identifying these dangerous situations and diffusing them.










Servant Leadership in Nursing

Servant Leadership is not a new concept. It has been around a while now. While many companies try to emulate it, few succeed. Robert K Greenleaf in 1970 coined the phrase in his essay The Servant as Leader.

“The servant-leader is servant first… It begins with the natural feeling that one wants to serve, to serve first. Then conscious choice brings one to aspire to lead. That person is sharply different from one who is leader first, perhaps because of the need to assuage an unusual power drive or to acquire material possessions…The leader-first and the servant-first are two extreme types. Between them there are shadings and blends that are part of the infinite variety of human nature.” –

I believe this is an important concept for Nurse Leaders. Many times I think we tend to go to the extremes. I have said it here before “not all Nurses naturally make great managers.” Nursing in itself is about service to others. It’s showing compassion and caring to those in need and those in pain and doing everything in our power to bring relief and promote healing.

In the first extreme, we focus so much on serving others it’s difficult to take a step back look at the big picture or the long-term goals. These nurses find it difficult to make tough choices and manage personnel.

In the second extreme, we focus on being a “boss” and forget to step into the much and get our hands dirty. These leaders often find themselves caught up in power trips, always fighting to get ahead and prove their worth.

“The difference manifests itself in the care taken by the servant-first to make sure that other people’s highest priority needs are being served. The best test, and difficult to administer, is: Do those served grow as persons? Do they, while being served, become healthier, wiser, freer, more autonomous, more likely themselves to become servants? And, what is the effect on the least privileged in society? Will they benefit or at least not be further deprived? “

Finding the balance I believe is important. To be a servant leader, you must put others first and build up your team. In doing so, you will also build yourself up, not an easy task in corporations who don’t value the employees.

“However, servant leadership is problematic in hierarchical, autocratic cultures where managers and leaders are expected to make all the decisions. Here, servant leaders may struggle to earn respect”

I get it. I work for a large corporation who values the servant leadership model, but that has not always been the case. As a nurse, you will find many varying degrees of leadership styles. However, what I have found is sometimes the companies that don’t value this type of leadership are the ones that need it the most.

When looking at leadership models for many years, a pyramid has been used to describe the hierarchy and reporting structure.

Servant Leadership Wrong Pyramid model
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Now many companies are making the switch to turn this pyramid on its head. In this way, the focus is to support those supporting the customer and improve employee satisfaction and retention.

Three quick tips to becoming a better servant leader.

Listen to your team.

I often think of a servant leader as a moderator. When someone has an opinion, a servant leader will listen. If the opinion is right and has credence, they will be humble enough to accept it and move forward. If the opinion is missing the mark, they will take the time to mold the thought process and help teach the person why it doesn’t work, instead of shutting them down.

Every moment is a teachable moment for the servant leader.

Every servant leader must teach and be able to learn. Don’t let mistakes go unnoticed. It doesn’t matter if the mistake was made by you or someone on your team. This is an opportunity to learn and grow.

Invest in others.

“That means the leader is not always leading, but instead giving up power and deputizing others to lead.” Skip Prichard

If you have never read the book The Dream Manager I highly recommend it. In this book, Matthew Kelly and Patrick Lencioni speak about creating an environment that invests in the employees and helps them fulfill their dreams, dreams like buying their first house, going back to school, learning a new language and many others.

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5 Steps to Handle a Crisis Like a Pro

Being a nurse leader when everything is going smooth is one thing, but being a nurse leader when a crisis comes along is a whole other beast. Many Nurses shy away from leadership roles because they fear to be the one in charge when it hits the fan. What do you do when all eyes turn to you for answers? How do you step in and lead your team? Here are 5 steps all nurse leaders need, to take charge.

1. Slow it down


When you’re frantic, there is no thinking, decision making, or acting to resolve the issue at hand. Slow down the situation and those involved. The only way to do this is to control your thinking. Instead of letting your inner dialogue go down all the ways this bad situation could get worse, focus on what is going on now, and what steps are needed to correct it. There will come a time to come up with a plan to counter the fallout. But in this first step keep it simple. What is the path of least resist that bring the most positive outcome and resolve the situation at hand?

“Slow is smooth, Smooth is fast” – Mel Gibson in The Patriot.

2. Get “Most” of the story

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Once you have slowed it down get the information you need to make informed decisions. Ask questions. Often key facts are left out in the heat of the moment, so it’s important to make sure to dig a little deeper until there is enough information to act swiftly. I remember a situation when a resident was choking. It was lunch time, and one would assume the resident was choking in the dining room. In fact, when the caregiver came running up to us, we immediately ran off in that direction. Luckily, the caregiver stopped us long enough to tell us where the resident was so we could move in and act swiftly.

With that said once we knew where the resident was had enough information to act. Now could have we asked more questions and gotten more information? Yes but that would not have helped this resident.

Bernstein Crisis Management speaks to the 80% rule.

80% rule. Leaders certainly want to make the right set of decisions. Strong leaders understand they will not always have all of the information they might like. They know that making an imperfect decision can often be better than making no decision at all. Even if the decision needs to be “fine tuned” for implementation, they are comfortable making it.”

3. Exhale

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pan·ic1 – a sudden overwhelming fear, with or without cause, that produces hysterical or irrational behavior, and that often spreads quickly through a group of persons or animals. –

Before rushing into battle take a deep cleansing breath. Here is the weird part, in a panic situation, you can’t do it. First, you need to exhale. Force all the air out of your body completely emptying you diaphragm then breath in.

“When you feel like you can’t catch your breath, it’s because you forgot to do something.

You forgot to exhale.

That’s right. Before you can take a deep breath, you have to give one away. Why? Because, when you’ve been breathing in a short, shallow manner (from your chest), if you try and take a deep inhale, you just can’t do it. All you can do is take a more labored, shallow breath from your chest. That will give you all the air you need, but it won’t feel good.” Anxiety Coach.

4. Be ready to work

Crisis Nurse leader

The quickest way to lose the respect and trust of your staff is to sit there and delegate out all the sacrifice that must be made. However, By being the first to put yourself in the front of the fight, you will gain the respect and loyalty of your staff and be able to model how to handle the situation at hand.

“If there are sacrifices to be made – and there will be – then the leaders should step up and make the greatest sacrifices themselves. Everyone is watching to see what the leaders do. Will they stay true to their values? Will they bow to external pressures, or confront the crisis in a straight-forward manner? Will they be seduced by short-term rewards, or will they make near-term sacrifices to fix the long-term situation?”- Developing a Leader

5. Rely on your training


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It’s interesting that when people need to perform CPR they often come away saying something to the effect of “I can’t believe I remembered how to do it. It’s like I just knew what to do”. This is why state regulations often require us to complete our CPR training every 1 – 2 years. Hopefully, when the situation comes to hand, we are able to react and have our muscle memory primed to handle the emergency. The old adage “hope for the best, prepare for the worst” is a mantra every nurse leader should become intimate with. The one thing anyone can do to prepare for the worst, keep calm in a crisis, and be the leader the situation needs, is to keep learning, keep training, and keep drilling.

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How To Stay Positive When It Has All Gone Crazy

You walk in the door and make your way to the time clock. This typically mundane task usually takes all of 2 minutes. Today that pit inside your stomach has now consumed your liver and kidneys. You are bombarded with staff issues, dinging call bells, and yelling patients. Oh, it’s going to be one of those days huh! After finally making it to the time clock (15 minutes late) you make your way to report where someone looks at their watch, looks at you, looks at their watch, looks at you, looks at… you get the point. This positive day has since gone crazy!

Walking into a chaotic work environment is akin to waking up to the neighbor mowing their lawn at 5 am, it’s bound to set you on a negative path and put you in a terrible mood for the remainder of your day. When this happens, it’s not just your mood that suffers, your patients suffer, and your staff suffers. You’re apt to overlook important tasks and rush through assessments.

So how do you turn it around?
How do you recover a positive attitude?

I think it’s important to note that people are, well, people. We have emotions that color our days. But, I have known nurses who, once set on this path of negativity just can’t recover. It’s important to be able to bounce back and put aside the chaos to provide the best care possible for our patients and be the best nurse leader in our industry.

I worked with a nurse, for a short period of time, but something really amazed me. She was so positive, kind, caring, and competent. I didn’t know until much later that she was in the middle of an ugly divorce and just lost someone close to her. All the while going through financial troubles and dealing with the craziness of the job.

I thought about how profound that was. In an age where the world revolves around “self,” this nurse put her “self” aside and focused on the patients. I never did connect again, but I can only imagine how far she went in her life and in her career.

Now personally, I am more like a sponge. I am kind of person who sits next to someone who is crying and begins tearing up. If someone is yelling at me, I emotionally drop to their level. I recognized this about myself years ago.

I had a particularly grouchy boss. I mean every day she was in a bad mood. I would walk in the door happy hopeful and reach my desk miserable and dreadful. It was crazy how I reacted to her negativity. So, I began working on this in myself to become a stronger leader. I decided I wanted to influence others emotions in a positive way rather than let their emotions influence me.

Automatic Negative Thoughts

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I remember driving to work, as I got closer my mood would get worse, anticipating the negativity. I realized as this mood peaked I would get negative thoughts running through my head almost on their own volition which would, in turn, sour my mood even further.

These negative thoughts that pop into our heads are called Automatic Negative Thoughts. I love how Dr. Daniel G. Amen, MD in ANT Therapy explains these “ANTs.”

“If you could look into the thoughts of people who are depressed, you would find one dispiriting thought following another. When they look at the past, there is regret. When they look at the future, there is anxiety and pessimism. In the present moment, something is most often unsatisfactory. The lens through which they see themselves, others, and the world has a dim grayness to it. They are suffering from Automatic Negative Thoughts or ANTs. ANTs are cynical, gloomy, and complaining thoughts that just seem to keep coming all by themselves.”

Dr. Daniel Amen goes on to speak about, how powerful thoughts are, and their impact on our physical state. He theorized that we can learn how to control these negative thoughts by correcting them as they happen.

Challenge your thinking

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Next time an ANT crawls into your head. Challenge it. By challenging these thoughts we can change them and control them. When you are lost in that self-deprecated cinematic visualization of yourself bombing your interview and walking out in slow motion with people laughing at you as you pass. Stop the film. Rewind it. Now change it.

Visualize yourself landing that job and walking out with your head held high. It takes the time to master this task, but persistence is the key. I will also note how It feels awkward at first. Which is weird right? Why would it feel awkward to visualize yourself doing great things? I don’t know. But trust me it does. Soon, however, you will get the hang of it and begin to shape your mind and react by thinking positive.

Be Aware of your own mind

Brendon Burchard, a New York Times Bestselling Author, speaks in is video “How to Reprogram your mind (for positive thinking)” about becoming more self-aware of your thoughts. Brendon gives the example of any time you’re in line, for any reason, analyze your thoughts. Take time to think about what you are thinking about and ask yourself if that thought is positive and is going to help or negative only causing you stress and anxiety.

Focus on the now

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“My life has been filled with terrible misfortune; most of which never happened.” Michel de Montaigne.

Many times, as things begin to go downhill, it’s not so much about what is happening now that has us all worked up. It’s the thought of what’s next.

The Huffington post in 2015 wrote an article entitled “85 Percent of What We Worry About Never Happens”.

“The stress hormones that worry dumps into your brain have been linked to shrinking brain masslowering your IQ, being prone to heart disease, cancer, and premature aging, predicting martial problems, family dysfunction and clinical depression, and making seniors more likely to develop dementia and Alzheimer’s.”

Press the Clear Button

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In the article above Don Joseph Goewey gives an excellent way to clear ourselves and stop the worrying in their tracks mentally.

She explains that our worry center can be interrupted with a simple technique.

“You imagine a button at the center of your palm. You press it and count to three, thinking of each number as a color.

  • Breathe in, count 1, think red.
  • Breathe in, count 2, think blue.
  • Breathe in, count 3, think green.
  • On the exhale, completely let go of thinking anything for a moment.”

Don’t be a victim

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It’s easy to get trapped in a victim mindset. “This damn car always breaks down just when I need it!” “Why does this stuff always happen just to me?”, “Nobody else’s Job/Boss/Staff/Patients (you fill in the blank) are as bad as mine.” Well, I hate to break it to you, but no matter how bad you have it someone has it much worse. You think your day is bad, how about the patient you are caring for that just lost her son in the same car accident that has left her fighting for her life. Take a minute to feel sorry for yourself, soak it in, now push it away. Everyone has struggled, you are not alone or unique here. Don’t let that feeling over power and control you.

As a leader attitude is everything. You set the tone for your work environment. You have the power to influence everyone else’s attitude. By learning to control your thinking and using techniques to shut down worry, you can turn a bad day around and find a strength you didn’t know you had.

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NCLEX to CEO – 7 Characteristics of a Nurse Leader with Bonus Material

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Leukemia Patient Returns to Hospital as a Nurse

Why did you become a nurse?

Reasons from around the web!



The big return with minimal investment. I came from a low income family and wasn’t sure how I was going to afford college. The hospital based diploma program I attended was free 100% in return for me, working at the hospital after graduation. Best investment ever

prnqday, BSN, RN

I love helping others and truly do feel that nursing is my calling. The pay isn’t too bad, however with all the crap I have to put up with sometimes the pay definitely isn’t on the top of the list to why I became a nurse. IMHO. When I chose nursing, at a very young age, I wasn’t aware of the schedule of flexibility. I must say the flexibility is a plus. I can work in so many different areas of nursing and feel as though I’d never be bored.


Nursing is not my calling!!! Trust me if I had the time to go back to school I would. The reason I went into nursing, I was in vet school and had to quit due to a family emergency. I had to come home and since there was no vet schools around and I had pretty much all of the curriculum for nursing school figure I would go so I can at least work and be making some kind of money. And I’m still here.

Palliative Care, DNP

Because I was wait listed for dental hygiene and didn’t want to wait a year.


Encouraged by my Dad who was a firefighter – he enjoyed helping others in a time of need and that characteristic rubbed off on me.

Wilena Blackwell, RN, MSN, CCTN

“I can remember being a little girl, about 7 or 8 years old. I was raised by my grandmother who was in her late 60s. As her health started to decline with diabetes and other problems, she had a home health nurse who came out and taught her how to administer insulin. I remember at the age of 8, I learned how to administer insulin, give pills and instill eye drops in my grandmother’s eyes. I was my grandmother’s caretaker. The home health nurse was a true inspiration to me. She always encouraged me to do my best in school and I, too, could become a nurse. I enjoyed the idea of helping and healing others. To this very day, I will never forget that nurse. She was caring and compassionate, and she played a big role in my decision to become a nurse and a mentor to other young girls – today, I tell them that they can become whatever they want if they put their minds to it.”

– Sarika M.

It takes a special kind of person to be a nurse. I have been a nurse for over 30 years. I have had my share of disappointments, but it is from my own experience I am able to draw the perfect pleasure of nursing. I was a psychiatric nurse and worked with youngsters who had issues with drugs and abandonment. I became very enlightened and gained abilities to intervene in many cases.In one case, as the young lady was leaving she said to me, “I’ll never forget you, what you said to me, as long as I live.” I guess that one instance made my life important to someone. I have since become a supervisor in a nursing home where I oversee 60 residents. I see to the comfort of my residents while they are alive, and I comfort their families when they pass. I feel my life matters! In a world where it seems money is the only measures that people look at, I am proud to know I matter and make a difference in someone’s life.

Jason Hautala RN

I joined nursing because of the excellent girl to guy ratio in nursing school. Who knew I would be in a classroom full of men hating women? Please elaborate on why you became a nurse. Thanks.


I got hooked on nursing in the military, I am a medic and was deployed to Kosovo in 00-01, after working in the ER in a combat support hospital I fell in love with the pace and the challenge of nursing, after that it just seemed like a logical fit to become a RN when I got home. Besides there is something about sticking medal and plastic into people that just does it for me

Bossy 1

… because I love to give injections and I look good in white!

Seriously, when I realized that I didn’t want to pursue biology, nursing was the only field that took all of my credits. After all, my parents money was terrible thing to waste!


Welding class was full.


I got lost on the way to the police academy.


I became a nurse because when I was 17 I had a horrible experience with a nurse practitioner. My piece of ^%$# ex boyfriend cheated on me with a bunch of girls and gave me HPV as well as a horrid UTI and yeast infection. The NP treated me like I was a dirty @#$% and after taking one look at my vagina said, “oof, yeah, that’s gotta hurt like hell, I gotta prescribe you someting”. All I can remember is her lack of compassion while I laid on the exam table, spread eagle in front of a stranger at 17 years old, alone, tears streaming down my face. I vowed that I would never treat someone like that ever and that I would take her job some day. I’ve been an RN For 3.5 years now and am a year away of getting my Master’s degree to become an NP. 🙂


I was a Graphic designer with intentions of going into art therapy. I was made redundant, so I did plan B.

Never regretted it for a second.


Seemed like a good idea at the time? (That time may have been after lots of tequila).


No idea. But I’m pretty damn good at it.

Gina Maslow, RN, MSN, APRN-BC

I became a nurse because it would give me a profession at the end of my training.  I was pretty clueless at the time.  Throughout my training I kept thinking “I don’t like this”.  After graduation I applied at Kaiser (the only place I wanted to work) and was hired by a labor and delivery department administrator because she like to train new grads!  It was the best thing that could have happened to me.  I learned so much and developed skills in phlebotomy, peri-operative, newborns, recovery, post-partum and pediatrics!  I have gone from an AA nurse to BSN, to MSN, to a post-grad nurse practitioner.

Whatever your reason for becoming a nurse, thank you!

Nurse Fills Patients Fridge With More Than Just Food.

Amanda Mary Perez a nurse care aid was doing a routine visit on a home care client. As she was helping this gentleman, he asked Amanda to clean out his fridge.  However, when she opened the fridge she soon discovered it was empty.

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Facebook – Amanda

Concerned, Amanda asked her client, “who buys the food?”

“I buy food when I have the money” he replied.

Like it would be for many of us, this moved Amanda to tears and made her take stock of her wants and needs.

“Someone once told me, it doesn’t matter what you have now because as a human you’ll always have the mindset that it’s not enough and you need or want more. Lately, I have been so upset because I wanted the materials in life. New Car, House, more clothes, and shoes, etc.” Amanda says on her Facebook.


Nurse Shops for patient
Facebook – Amanda

Realizing, “my needs are wants, and his wants are needs” Amanda drove to the store and used her income tax money to stock his fridge with food.

Nurse Full Fridge
Facebook – Amanda


We cross many paths on our journey as a nurse, and it is easy to fall into a sense callousness without seeing the warning signs. One day we are distraught at a patient’s situation, the next day indifferent.

How does this happen?

Our natural response to pain is guarding. If we touch a hot stove, we jerk our hand back. If we touch a painful situation, we step back and distance ourselves.

Now I want to make a point here. As Nurses, we MUST learn to disconnect from the situation from time to time. It does the gunshot victim no good for us to be in tears in the corner of the room while they are bleeding out.

I remember when my son was just learning to crawl and he took a bite out of a piece of bread. I didn’t realize he had it in his mouth when I laid him on his back and started to change his diaper. But as soon as I looked at his face I knew something was wrong. I immediately turn him over and swatted his back and out came a nice lump of dough.

At the time it was acting and react. But as soon as it was out, my heart sank into my stomach, and I started shaking. I began asking what no parent ever wants to imagine… What if it hadn’t come out or I hadn’t noticed?

The point is, you must have an emotional distance to perform your job. However, you also must care.  Many will disagree with me here. In fact I have had discussions with others about emotion in the workplace. Some think emotions only get in the way and have no place. I think emotions are what drives us to do better. I believe we must connect with our patients and empathize to provide the holistic care we are all called to.

One of the basic building blocks of ethics and ethical conduct toward others is empathy. Without empathy it is difficult for any of us to understand the needs and wants of others so that we may know how to treat them kindly and generously, or to practice any other virtue in our day-to-day relations with them. – Nursing

So how do we find that spark?

Put yourself in your patient’s shoes.

None of us want to imagine losing a child, a spouse, a sibling, or a parent. But, take a minute and picture not being at your spouse’s side after 63 years of marriage. I tell you, I would be a miserable, grouchy, mean old man if that were me.

One of the basic building blocks of ethics and ethical conduct toward others is empathy. Without empathy it is difficult for any of us to understand the needs and wants of others so that we may know how to treat them kindly and generously, or to practice any other virtue in our day-to-day relations with them. – Nursing

One of the deepest felt loss was when a patient I was caring for passed. This particular gentleman lost his wife his son and his sister within the past year and was mean on life. Seriously, this guy insulted with the best of them. I was called every name in the book by this guy. Everyone he met left fuming at the ears. But, I remember when he passed it hit me hard. I thought I can’t imagine the life he has led and all the loss he has had.

Spend time with your patient.

The most comprehensive feature of the nurses’ collective understanding of caring was their recognition and acknowledgment of the person behind the patient, i.e. person-centredness. – BioMed Central

When getting into management roles our face time with patients decrease. However, on the floor, we often become, so task-oriented we lose the personal connection. I think it is hugely impactful to take a minute to just to hold a patient’s hand, walk them down the hall, or even sit and have lunch with them. It is amazing what a few minutes of undirected time can provide. I understand we by no means can do it with every patient as our staff ratios are through the roof. But I challenge you in whatever field of nursing to take a minute just to spend time with a patient.

Attend a patient support group.

I think every nurse at some point in their career should attend a support group. There are many patient support groups out there. I was forced to lead one, one afternoon and it changed my career. The person who was supposed to be hosting it had an emergency, and I was called in to host. I had no idea what I was doing and spent most of the time just listening. I think that’s when what it means to be a nurse truly hit home. I listened to the patients and families as they went around the table talking about how scared they were, and alone they felt but how this nurse or that nurse helped them through it. I left that day knowing I was doing exactly what I should be doing.

It is easy in our careers to become cold and calloused. But strength doesn’t come from an emotional distance, strength comes from connecting and loving your patient. It comes from putting yourself in their shoes like Amanda did and spending time with your patient. So, a big thank you to Amanda for selflessly serving another and to the millions of nurses out there that go above and beyond out of love and sacrifice.

If you would like to check out the original article by Ann-Sophie Kaemmerle, you can find it at The Little Things.

Please Comment below and share a time you have experienced a nurse going above and beyond.



Onboarding Guide for Nurse Leaders 5 steps to Success

When hiring, you are investing in a person. You spend time, money, and resources. In fact, according to, US companies spent an average of 72 billion dollars or $3,300 per hire. That’s a lot of money! Now factor in that many new hires don’t work out and you can see how hiring and retaining is one of, if not the, biggest factors of success. To build a strong house, you must have a stronger foundation. This all starts with the onboarding process.

 “Replacing talent runs as high as two times annual salary,” said Peterson. “And it’s not just about dollars. Culture and job satisfaction is hugely impacted, as well as morale, productivity, lost insider knowledge. It’s painful to lose people.” Ben Paterson CEO of BambooHR

5 Steps to Onboard Star Players

Before You Hire

Nurse Resume On-Boarding

Onboarding starts before you even hire the employee. It begins with the first contact with a potential candidate. Gone are the days of interviewing someone like an FBI interrogator where only the strongest survive. Instead, interviewing is about getting to know a person, their strengths, and weaknesses and deciding if they have the qualifications and personality for your company. Also carefully screening candidates and reading their resume before you even call them to come in respects their time and yours.

Set the tone

Nurse Interview, On-boarding
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I remember showing up to an interview right out of nursing school. I walked into the building where someone was sitting at a desk nearby, I walked over and stood patiently waiting for the person to look up as they were typing away on the keyboard. They just started to look up when the phone rang. I remember thinking ok they’re a little busy just be patient. Then as I was staring at the clock watching the time I was scheduled to interview slip away, she hung up the phone, and an employee walked by. She then proceeded to turn for a nice little chat with this employee who had a date this weekend with a girl he met last night at a club.

I had been standing there for some time and at this point was getting irritated thinking if this is any indication of how they treat their employees it’s not for me. I politely interrupted, “I am so sorry I just want to make sure I am in the right place, I am here to interview with _____.”

Now just to clarify, I did eventually get the job, but it did not work out. The too busy to acknowledge or work with people mentality was a theme throughout this company, and I ended up looking for employment elsewhere.

Compare this to a company I interviewed at where I walked in the door and was greeted with a smile and offered a cup a coffee while I waited for the manager to come get me. One left me questioning if this was right, even after getting the job. The other left me hoping they chose me so I could be a part of this dynamic team.

“About one-third of the new hires who had quit said they’d had barely any onboarding or none at all, and 15 percent of respondents noted that lack of an effective onboarding process contributed to their decision to quit.” Said Roy Mayor in his article Onboarding Key to Retaining, Engaging Talent

Keeping the tone

Nurse On-boarding, Training,

Setting the tone in the onboarding process begins with the interview, however, maintaining the tone is crucial.

“In today’s working world, employees want – and expect – more than just a brief introduction to the company they just joined, a few training sessions and a pay check. They want a personalized, interactive experience and a comprehensive understanding of the organization and how it can help grow them professionally. And, it does not take long for them to decide if they made the right choice.” First Impressions Count: Creating a Positive Onboarding Experience.

After a significant employee turnover rate within a 30-day period of time, I decided to do an exit interview with a candidate who left the company after only 2 weeks of employment. I was impressed with this candidate from day one and trying to find out why they left so soon. The candidate painted a pretty ugly picture for me. The interview was great, and they had been so excited to start. However, day one came, and no one remembered they were scheduled to start, they ended up walking around for almost 2 hours trying to find someone who would let them know what they were supposed to be doing. Ok mistakes happen they thought let’s give it an another chance. Day 2 they showed up and went to meet the person who was supposed to mentor them and found that person to be out sick. “Everyone looked at me like I had a disease, no one wanted to train me,” he said to me. This story went on and on, in fact, in the end, I questioned why he hadn’t left sooner.

Having a plan with contingencies is critical. It’s important to have the candidate feel like they are in the middle of a well thought out proven process designed solely for their success. These employees call off less and are much more stable because they see stability in the onboarding process.

Too much too soon

Overwhelmed on-boarding nurse

One of the biggest mistakes I see companies make in any industry is pushing new hires through the onboarding process too early. With staff shortages, and call offs, it’s tempting to grab the new hire and throw them on the floor to fill the spot. Not only is this dangerous in the medical field but it’s setting them up for failure. It is important to assess where they are and mold the process around them. Companies with a strict time limit for onboarding are not capturing the needs of their employees. Some of the greatest employees I have worked with took extra time in the onboarding process because they just weren’t ready to do it alone yet.

Create an Onboarding Experience

Nurse on-boarding eating alone

I remember my first day of high school. I didn’t know anyone. I walked onto campus with a map, books, and class list. Did I mention I didn’t know anyone? But you know what the one thing I dreaded from the time I woke up that fateful morning was? Lunch. You see, you can’t be too ambitious and sit with the popular kids but don’t want to jump into any group to early and get branded. At least until you get to know people. So instead you sit by yourself and hope no one notices you until you get the lay of the land.

What I didn’t know is that this dread followed me up through my career. Now I have grown much confident than the slightly nerdy kid I was back then. But it is always an uncomfortable social situation for me.

I then had an employer take control of this time. He took me to the cafeteria, showed me how to order, where to sit, and even sat with me during lunch. What an impression! I remember feeling very welcomed and relieved and built a great relationship from that day forward.

“It’s important for new hires to create meaningful connections with colleagues, management, and direct reports. Personally introduce new hires to the team during the first week (depending on the size of the team, you may want to spread this out over a few days). A team lunch is a great way for everyone to get to know each other on a personal and professional level.” The Staffing Stream.


Onboarding sets the pace for the rest of an employee’s career. Messing this up not only costs you time and money but potentially losing excellent candidates as well. One theory I have is that an excellent candidate is much less likely to stay in spite of a poor onboarding experience than a weak candidate. Those candidates that remain are often the ones who want to come to work scrape by and leave. While the people with higher standards move on to companies that meet their expectations.

To sum it up treat your candidates as people. Tailor your onboarding process to the individual and set the tone from day one.

“Clients do not come first. Employees come first. If you take care of your employees, they will take care of the clients.” Richard Branson


Nurse Interview and Resume Guide to Land Your Dream Job

With all the vast knowledge, available on interviewing I have pulled together a list of the top nurse interview guides, Some short and sweet some full length. You can be prepared for your next interview and land that dream job!


Facebook Group RNInterview Tools

My favorite group to date, “New Grad / Old Grad / Reentry Grad – The Struggle is Real!” RNInterview Tools is a great place to ask questions, read others comments and join a group of like-minded individuals sharing experiences and insights. I have been apart of this group for some time now and loved to read the questions and be part of the discussion.

Tips and How Too’s

11 Tips and Techniques for Your Nurse Interview

Great tips on timeliness presentation and attitude when going for that nurse job.

Five Tips for Nursing Job Interviews

Just need some last-minute tips? Check out nursing world’s top 5.

The Complete Guide to Successful Interviewing for nursing students and Alumni

If you really want to get indepth instruction on all things interview. Check out this resource from John Hopkins university. (there is a click here button to download the PDF)

Interview Questions

The Toughest Nursing Interview Questions And Answers That Will …

“When interviewing for a nursing position you want the interviewer to be blown away by your passion for your nursing career. Tackling these three interview questions will help your passion shine through and you will conquer the interview!”

How to Answer the most common Nursing Interview Questions

Guideline for how to answer those tough interview questions!

Types of Interviews

Ten tips for handling job interviews by phone – American Nurse Today

Handling interview by phone is tough. Check out American Nurse Today’s ten tips!

Ace the Interview: Behavioral Nurse – TheJobNetwork

Most companies have moved to behavior interview questions. Check out this guide.

10 Types of Interviews (and How to Ace Them) – The Muse

Companies vary in how they interview. This is an excellent guide to preparing for any kind of interview.

Understanding different types of job interviews, behavioral, second …

Another great article on various interviews this one not nursing specific.

Specialty Fields

Staff Nurse Interview Questions and Answers –

Staff Nurse interview questions guide.

Operating Room Nurse Interview Questions – Resources – Workable

Operating Room nurse interviews

Interview Tips & Strategies for Travel Nurse Jobs at

Travel Nurse Tips and Tricks!

5 Key Flight Nurse Interview Tips | MyPerfectResume

Looking for an exciting career as a flight nurse? Check out the five interview tips from my perfect resume.

The Secret that Nurse Managers Look For In An Interview – nursecode …

Landing a nurse manager position isn’t for the faint of heart. Check out this guide on what interviers are looking for!

Baby Nurse Interview Tips: Common Questions | Pavillion Agency

Common questions for those looking to enter the world of peds.

Correctional Nurse Interview Prep Guide – Part I – Correctional Nurse …

Prep for that correctional nurse interview.

Addiction Nurse Interview Questions | MockQuestions

Here are some interview questions specific to the addiction nurse specialty.

7 Essential Interview Tips for Legal Nurse Consultants

Legal Nurse Consultants interview guide.

School Nurse – interview tips? | Mumsnet Discussion

A great resource on School Nurse interviews.


Nursing Resume Sample & Writing Guide | Resume Genius

I am a visual person so seeing samples is how I learn. Here is an excellent nurse resume sample.

Nurse Resume Sample |

Another nurse resume sample.

Top 10 Details to Include on a Nursing Resume – RN Resume

Top 10 things that are a must on your resume.

Sample Nursing Student Resume – Baylor University

Again love seeing example of resumes to spark ideas.


What to Wear and Not Wear to a Nursing Interview – Verywell

Great article on what to wear and land that job.

Job Interviews: What To Wear – ADVANCE for Nurses – AdvanceWeb

Another great article on what to wear.

Before you dress for your next job interview, you’d better read this …

Not nursing specific but a great read for knowing your industry and dressing accordingly. “Employers in an interview setting do judge a book by its cover,” adds Zoller. “And many times, they’re not going to read the book if they don’t like the cover.”

Have more articles, Guides, and Resources? Please comment below for consideration in adding to this list! Also, I try to keep all links updated and corrected but sometimes these can change. If a link is not working please let me know and I will fix it asap.

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